Comments on: Musings

By: cathy

cathy — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 23:13:17 +0000

Hmm not a pleasant situation! You re lucky you can talk conscructively if you need to! Glad its sorted itself out,maybe the boss has whispered in her ear? Me ? Im in the opposite position,my assistant was getting bossy with me,and the worst thing is that my boss sided with her as they didnt realise the persons job description was as I had pointed out,a hard spot as I had written her criteria to help her get the job,poor fool me!
Best advice ,keep a diary>

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 04:15:12 +0000

That is a crappy situation! I agree with the general consensus: definitely have a talk with the boss, next week. Take some time to think about what you want, what you want to be doing in 5 years, and put it out there. Also, I would look around to see what other opportunities are out there, just for leverage/confidence building.

I would be too chicken to do this, but a talk with H about her treating you like an incompetent admin would be good. She needs to see you as an equal, don’t let her continue to treat you like that.

Now, if only I could take my own advice! I can’t get more to do at work and sit on my ass most of the day.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 00:31:31 +0000

Yikes, I would wait, then talk. Your sweater looked great at Rhinebeck. I was sitting on a wall and after you were past me I figured out it was you. I was too tired to run after you.

By: --Deb

--Deb — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 22:01:17 +0000

Yep, I agree with everybody else–wait a few days for the hormones, but then have a chat… Voodoo doll isn’t a bad idea, either!

By: JessaLu

JessaLu — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 18:39:34 +0000

I agree…wait, then talk. ;o) oh and Kim might have something there… hehehe

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:34:06 +0000

I’d let this time of the month pass and then when you’re not so hormonally adled, I would talk to your boss. I would not talk to H. She seems to be trying to build herself up at your expense and make you her butt boy (excuse the french). Rise above her bullshit cause she ain’t shit. A knitted voodoo doll couldn’t hurt either.

By: Ina

Ina — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:01:44 +0000

Sounds like there’s a bundle of stuff to take up with J. I don’t think H needs to be involved unless you report to her.

By: Helen

Helen — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 16:48:27 +0000

I think, yes, you should talk to your boss. It might be a good idea to write down very specific things/situations on a piece of paper so that you have it to refer to. BUT you should also update your resume and think about starting a job search, because this situation may not resolve (even with repeated meetings with the boss) and you deserve better.

By: Tina M.

Tina M. — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 16:23:50 +0000

Emotionally a bad situation is still a bad situation, it’s just amplified right now. In my workplace we’d have a sit down with your boss and perhaps the HR rep, and explain your issue. The great aspect of this is that you’re actually ASKING for more work, and I assume your record is great. (I’ll add in here that I work in HR) Explaining your concerns and laying out what you’d like to see happen is a positive step, not whining, and allows them to see you as the professional you are.

Good luck, I hope you’re able to head this off at the pass before you start to hate working at a job that you really do enjoy.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 16:21:15 +0000

I agree talk you your boss with one caveat, wait until you TOTM is finished. It will be easier for you to trust your instincts then and it will probably be a productive discussion.

We’ll be hitting IKEA on Thursday I see we’ll be getting gas as well;)