I want to thank everyone for their advice and commiseration to my post yesterday. ¬†I do like the idea of the voodoo doll and might just knit one if it comes to that. ¬†While the hormone situation hasn’t quite played out fully yet, it isn’t quite so bad this morning.
First, yesterday we had our team meeting (H, J and myself) to discuss status and then data modeling for the big bad project. ¬†During the course of the data modeling part, J turned to me and said that it didn’t matter to him how it was designed, I was coding it. ¬†Awesome. ¬†That’s a big item that wasn’t on the project plan that he handed me last week. ¬†Cool.
Second, after the meeting, H and I were trying to diagnose a problem that client services sent to me. ¬†When we decided to try something I noted that I just missed an automatic event and said that I’d have to trigger it manually. ¬†This is the change that I referred to yesterday. ¬†She’d asked whether I’d done it. ¬†I said that I’d completed that directive last week. ¬†We got to discussing the “directive” and she apologized for having it come out that way. ¬†I told her that while we agree that the task change and email were properly from me as I am the point person, I do know that any change requires a broadcast email. ¬†Additionally that there is a nice way to get a peer to do something and a not-so-nice/bossy way of doing it. ¬†She apologized right then and there. ¬†On the way home, I got a long email further apologizing for the tone of the directive and how she hadn’t meant it that way. ¬†And again, this morning, she apologized to my face, making sure we were okay. ¬†Call me a sucker, but I think she really means it.
She’s a bright girl, young (think this is her second, err third, job since getting out of school) and not a US native. ¬†To some extent I know where she’s coming from. ¬†I haven’t always taken the nice route myself. ¬†Had a boss several jobs ago tell me to play nice with others. ¬†It’s been a lesson that I’ve learned over the years, how to work well with peers. ¬†This might just be the beginning of that lesson for her. ¬†She is genuinely nice in other areas, including inquiring as to how the kids are, how my weekend was, etc. ¬†I’m going to give her the benefit of the doubt this time. ¬†I think maybe in a few days, I’d like to sit down with her and have a heart to heart, we’ll see. ¬†If something like this pops up again, mom suggested I gently prod her like I do with the twins for “please” and “thank you”. ¬†Can’t hurt, right?
Anyway, I feel better.
I noticed last night that while the second sleeve on kauni is one shade off the beginning of the first sleeve, I didn’t really notice that the colors are reversed. ¬† What is the foreground on one is the background on the other.
Second sleeve
First sleeve
¬†I’m now a 1/4 of the way through the sleeve. ¬†I might just finish this sucker afterall. ¬†This project monogamy isn’t a bad thing is it? ¬†I am getting tired of it though. ¬†Oh noes.
Craft on!
11 responses so far ↓
1 Rosemary // Oct 22, 2008 at 12:25 pm
Isn’t project monogamy amazing? Dedication to one thing does make for quick finishes.
Happy to hear that the work stress is resolving.
2 Amy // Oct 22, 2008 at 12:55 pm
I’m glad you’re feeling a little better about your work situation and that your co-worker seems to be aware that she may not have handled some things as well as she might.
That’s such a pretty sweater. If you’re not as in love with it as I’m pretty sure you will be, I’d take it off your hands, haha
3 Chris // Oct 22, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Good to hear the discomfort at work is easing with communication. Hope it all works out well for you. And I love your sweater!
4 JessaLu // Oct 22, 2008 at 4:43 pm
I’m glad she apologized – you were scaring me yesterday! lol
Can’t wait to see Kauni done, it’s looking gorgeous!
5 Ina // Oct 22, 2008 at 8:49 pm
That’s sounding ‘way more positive. Maybe it’s Mercury, the communication planet, in retrograde. Or somesuch.
I like the idea of negative image sleeves. Before snow flies!
6 lynne s of oz // Oct 23, 2008 at 1:17 am
ooh, ack, ” fun” (not!) times at work! Hope it continues to get better! It’s good that she apologised.
Love the sleeve. Love the Kauni full stop, even if I couldn’t wear it.
7 Eva // Oct 23, 2008 at 5:19 am
You know… when she gave you that ‘directive’ she may also have been visited by the hormone devil
If this happens again, I would indeed just jokingly add ‘say please’ or ‘thank you’ as you’d do with a kid.
Cheers Eva
8 Daniele // Oct 23, 2008 at 7:30 am
I missed what happened yesterday, but I’m glad it worked out for you. Common Courtesy is totally missing sometimes.
The Kauni is gorgeous. You can’t get any better colors than that!
9 Harriet // Oct 23, 2008 at 10:08 am
Project monogamy is for wussies. I prefer to think of myself as project polygamous. While I’m not a total project slut, spreading it around indiscriminately, I do find that one and only one gets rather boring in my knitting life.
As long as I have different rules for my marriage, I seem to be doing OK.
I really like the negative image sleeves. The question is, do you?
On the work front, if she’s as young as you describe, and English is not her first language, she might just be learning the ropes, and will benefit from having a mentor such as yourself. Of course, that can be a lot of work for you. On the other hand, it can be very rewarding and fun. On the other hand…I have five fingers.
10 Kim // Oct 23, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Yeah! I’m glad there’s been some progress with H. It seems like she’s trying and is handicapped by her youth and inexperience. Very positive development. Project monogamy ain’t easy but you’ll feel relief that it’s off the needles.
11 Lizzy B // Oct 23, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Glad to hear things are looking up on the job front. That sweater is STUNNING. I love it!